“Sometimes you just have to put it all out there.” I got that quote from watching Denise Richards show. I really like her. If you watch it she really gets a lot of flack and has chosen to just put it all out there and let the cards fall where they may. To me, that is one of the smartest things anyone can do. Of course I am not a hot famous model/actress but I have always believed I just happened to be born in the wrong place. I am certain if I would have been born in Beverly Hills I would have my own reality show or 2 by now, drive around in a Mercedes and not know what a Wal-Mart is, lol.
This past two or three years for me have been life changing. Mostly all good things but some bad as well. I have really made big changes in my life. I have learned that I am a pretty cool person and I have talents that I never thought I had. This has all come about from taking time to look inside of myself, forgiving myself and not being afraid to try. “I would rather have tried and failed than to never have tried at all.” I don’t know where that came from but I firmly believe in it. Sometimes when we change even for the better, we have to let go of what may be holding us back. One of those things for me was negative and unhealthy relationships. I noticed when I was around people who are negative it had a huge effect on me. It makes me anxious, insecure and my outlook changes from “I can do anything “to “I can’t.” After I realized what was going on I started staying away from situations that had a negative effect on me. By doing this I became more confident and really happy. I can honestly say that I am happy and content with my life. It has helped me get through some pretty rough times by looking at things from a positive perspective. In this little journey I have noticed that those Negative Nellies that I mentioned, don’t like it. Sometimes when we change for the better people we have known for a very long time just think we are crazy. In my case they are partially right I am a little crazy, but that is part of who I am. Should that make me cow down and go back to how I was before? Hell NO! If you think about it how many times have you heard something similar to this “she used to be so great, but since she lost all of her weight she is a different person.” Really, a different person? Do you think? The truth is whether it be weight loss or another aspect of your life. Anytime you make changes for the better you will be different! Chances are you have always been that person and just afraid to show it. When you feel good about who you are and what you are accomplishing your confidence goes up and you put yourself out there in ways you never thought you would.
My whole point of this is that no matter what it is in your life, if you have negative around you it will effect your progress. Don’t be afraid of backlash if it is going to make things better for you. Yes, it may be unpleasant but it will be worth it. Those Negative Nellies that you may even love, they will come around or go away. If they go away because you are better, healthier and happy then they need to go away. Another quote, I know I am full of them today but I have been thinking a lot about this. “You are a product of the 5 people who you associate yourself with the most.” That is something to really think about! If you are around people who you don’t really like, then how are you going to like yourself?
Assignment of the day…Do not use the words I CAN’T, replace them with I CAN! It is amazing what can happen when you think you can. Be the little engine that could, chug away until you meet your goal. Once you get to the top of that hill it will be exhilarating!
I think I can! XO Shannon